Self-confidence and aplomb
Self-confidence can be learned
Self-confidence, aplomb, a self-assured presence: these are qualities that can be impressive and likely to lead to success in certain situations, and more than a few people would like to have access to them in their own personal toolkit. But what constitutes a self-confident presence? Can it be learned? And how can I show poise and exude self-confidence in my upcoming salary negotiation or the next discussion with my family? A healthy self-confidence helps you to address your boundaries and needs. It takes self-confidence and a confident demeanour to stay true to yourself and draw attention to your own demands. People with low self-esteem or an unstable self-image are often plagued by self-doubt. The good news is that you can learn self-confidence and aplomb. Over time, you will approach new situations or difficult challenges with more composure and be better able to deal with crises and set your own boundaries.
Why is establishing limits important for self-confidence?
If we always say “yes”, although we mean “no”, and do not confidently disagree with decisions or opinions when necessary, our own wishes and needs fall by the wayside. At some point, the camel’s back will break, and we might experience a strong emotional reaction. Physical complaints such as inner turmoil, stomach aches, sleep disorders or high blood pressure can also result. Yet the little word “no” is, after all, only a word. It is only through our thoughts and feelings that it acquires negative connotations which make it difficult for us to say “no” – and thereby establish boundaries.
Why do so many people find it difficult to say “no”?
The path to more self-confidence
Self-confidence and aplomb can be learned and practised step by step. If you maintain poise and appear confident, you will remain able to act and keep a good balance between your needs and those of others. The following steps will help you to be more confident and self-assured in your everyday life.